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The price of comittment

Saturday, March 27th, 2010

“How do you handle running 4 company’s, singing and leading worship AND taking care of your family?”

I made a commitment to myself, set a goal and I was going to stick to it! My commitment, during the next 5 weeks, is to workout 4 times per week at Hard Exercise Works (Cross-Fit/Navy Seal style training w/out the guns). My goal was to gain 5 to 10lbs of pure muscle mass. I have always had a difficult time gaining weight and my love for extreme sports and punishing workouts keeps me thin.

Thinking about the intense workout I was going to do the next morning at 8am, I started getting ready for bed. I actually put earplugs in my ears because our son (Robby) continues to wake up at 3am and his cry’s echo through the in-room monitor (which my wife sets at the highest volume level possible). The clock hit 11:30pm and I was in bed, finally falling asleep at midnight.

Two hours later… The in-room monitor projects Robby crying at FULL BLAST! I spring up and run upstairs to his room. The little guy is trying to get to his milk (we learned to leave in his crib). I hand it to him and leave the room, anxious to get back to sleep. Ahh, sleeping again! 4am rolls around and now a different cry is heard FULL BLAST! Our daughter Aria is crying and coughing (a croupy, barking cough). Those of you that are parents have probably experienced a child with a croupy cough. It is NOT FUN! Aria is scared and it sounds terrible. We pick her up, hold her, love on her and pray over her. She then sleeps between us in our bed.  All night she is coughing and crying (in between us) in the bed. Needless to say, 8am rolls around and NO WORKOUT!

This same trend in different circumstances and capacities happens all the time to us as husbands/wives and eventually as parents. It starts with the commitment to your spouse, which at times, means sacrificing things we used to do. Then we learn a new level of commitment when we have children. I love sitting with young entrepreneurs who have just had a child. They are so excited, worried and confused at the same time. They always ask, “How do you handle running 4 company’s, singing and leading worship AND taking care of your family?” This is my favorite question because it allows me the opportunity to speak about the ultimate sacrifice and commitment. As we approach Palm Sunday and ultimately Easter Sunday, I get choked up. I can hardly fathom that one man purposely and without hesitation, gave His entire life as a sacrifice for me… for you… for everyone! Seriously, talk about commitment! Jesus made the ultimate commitment, HIS LIFE, for OURS!

Every time I get upset about waking up in the middle of the night to take care of our children, doing an act of service for my wife, helping out a friend when it is not convenient or any other act of sacrifice, I try to remember the pain and sacrifice Jesus made for me. I can’t help but throw my arms up and praise His glorious intentions!! Oh the Wonderful Cross!! I can’t wait to sing & praise God this weekend at Christ Fellowship Church!

All those in the Palm Beach County area, I encourage you to join me and my family over the next two amazing weekends!

Easter at Christ Fellowship >> go here!

Happy Easter!! God LOVES YOU!!

In His Love,

Robert


Lessons Learned From My Children, Part 1

Tuesday, August 25th, 2009

Part 1, Lessons Learned From My Children
Author: Robert W Wells

Let me start by saying that I Love My Kids! My daughter is 2 1/2 and my son is 5 weeks young. Never in a hundred years did I think I would learn from them. My wife is a real blessing. I seriously don’t know how women can stay up all night feeding a baby and function at all the next day. I woke up three times during the night and slept about 3 hours total.

So, my story begins… this morning, as I walked up the stairs, peering through my slightly open eyes, I heard my daughter calling out from her crib, “dadddddy! Aria’s awake now! Daddddy!”. Obviously, she had a lot more sleep than me last night… ok, I confess, make that every night!

I picked her up out of her crib and she is more chipper than ever. She say’s “daddy, read book to Aria!”. At this point, I think I could possibly read a book (to myself) but not out loud. That’s waaay to much effort! I start reading to her and my eyes start to close. She proceeds to exclaim with authority, “daddy, open your eyes!” I open one eye and she says, “daddy, open BOTH eyes”, and she begins to peel open my other eye with her fingers. Her tenacity and passion is contagious so I start to wake up. My day as husband, father and business owner begins.

In the last 2 1/2 years as a father, I have learned some valuable lessons.

First, Passion and Excitement are Contagious! When my daughter gets excited about something, her passion for what she is doing is addictive & contagious. So contagious in fact, that even people around us who appear to be in sour moods, CHEER UP! Wow, I thought to myself… this is something I would love to bottle up and use in my businesses.

Now, Imagine bringing the Passion and Excitement of a child to the stakeholders and employees in your business. Try infusing Passion and Excitement into your meetings and conversations. Watch the dynamics of your culture change. Imagine the things you could accomplish!

Second, Diligence produces significant results. I have found the more time we spend with our kids, the more we mold and shape them. “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6) Don’t let society mold your kids, YOU mold them. Believe me, there have been plenty of times I had a meeting, a deadline or some other business activity that was urgent, but I made a conscience decision to prioritize my time for my children.

Here’s an example… My daughter loves to read, I mean she really loves to read. This love started very early. We rarely watch TV and are very selective of what our children watch. With that said, using books as our form of entertainment, we started teaching our daughter to read early. Now, at 2 1/2, she wants us to read her books all day long. We can tell that the books and our time with her have had a sizable impact on her intellectually. She can talk in sign language, uses reasoning to solve problems, counts to 20, says the whole alphabet, knows the days of the week and can string together full sentences and sing full songs… at 2 1/2 years young. Amazing! Of course, we didn’t make her into this superstar, God did!!! But, we have to take some credit. So, I am a firm believer that our Diligence & Time with her has produced significant results.

Now, Imagine pouring the same Diligence and Time into your business. Better yet, Imagine your employees pouring the same Diligence into your business. Spend some time putting together goals and objectives for your team. Have the team strive for specific goals. Tie a tangible reward to the accomplishment of these goals and watch your business change. Imagine the things you could accomplish!

To be continued in Part 2, Lessons Learned From My Children


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